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How to Talk to Women – Why Your Conversation FAILS to Create Attraction

Friday, September 23rd, 2011

Conversation is one thing that everyone is supposed to be good at,  right?  I mean,  we start talking when we are toddlers and we pretty much have it mastered by the time we are in our teens,  so when you are an adult an find that it is HARD to talk to women,  it can seem incredibly troubling to you.  If you get tongue tied,  if you start conversations that seem to go nowhere and you realize that it is causing you trouble with women,  then please keep on reading.

Talking to women is one of the most basic and fundamental skills that any man can possess.  Unless you have the drop dead good looks and bad boy persona to back them up,  you have to be able to hold a conversation that creates attraction and chemistry with a woman.  That is going to be your main ‘edge’ and the one thing that you can rely on that takes any woman who is out of your league and brings her right back down to your level.

How to Talk to Women and Create Attraction

Most guys don’t even realize just how bad their conversation skills with women really are until they get that one experience where they are talking to a woman that they REALLY want and they find that they either have nothing to say,  or they are just terribly boring when they speak.  Chances are,  if you find it hard to talk to women,  then you have made some mistakes along the way.  That’s okay,  because mistakes can ALWAYS be corrected.

Mistake Number One When Talking to Women -  Not Shutting Up When You Should

Part of the conversation equation actually has less to do with talking,  and more to do with listening.  No one likes to be involved in a one sided conversation,  at least,  not when they are not the one who is dominating the diatribe.  So,  the first mistake that men make is that they do not shut up when they are supposed to.  If she is telling you a story,  her opinion,  or she is just really enthusiastic about something… be a little more quiet and a listen.  She’ll dig it.

It’s always funny how you can have a conversation with a woman where honestly,  she does most of the talking and you do a whole lot of listening and then at the end of the conversation she says something like,  “Wow,  it was really nice talking to you.”  It happens all of the time when you learn to actually apply this little used technique.

Mistake Number Two When Talking to Women – Not Asking Her Any Questions

Okay,  so you don’t want to be like a toddler who asks why after everything she says.  On the other hand,  you don’t want to just sit there and make it seem like you are not paying any attention at all to what she is saying.  Getting her to reveal a LOT about herself is dead easy when you learn to incorporate the question,  WHY,  and then wait for her reply.

I use this techniques all of the time when I either just don’t feel like doing a lot of talking or I really want to get a sneak peek inside a woman’s mind and see the way that she thinks.  For example,  finding out that she was a virgin until college and asking her why that was can get her to reveal a lot about the way that she thinks about sex and relationships.  And you can use that info to decide when and how to make your move if you want to try and get her into bed with you.

Mistake Number Three -  Your Conversation Fails to Create Attraction Because There is No ESCALATION

If you are talking to a woman and you really want to be more than just someone she is having a conversation with,  then you need to escalate beyond the small talk.  You don’t want to have the same kind of conversation that she would have with just any guy.  This is why you need to escalate if you want to create real chemistry and attraction with a woman.  Go beyond just talking about basic likes and dislikes and get into some real details about “taboo” subjects.

You might be surprised at how quickly a woman will open up about all kinds of stuff if she feels comfortable talking to you and you kind of GUIDE HER along into talking about the things YOU want to know about.  I like to get a woman to talk about sexual things as quickly as possible without it being so quick that it seems like that was all I really wanted to talk about in the first place.  From there,  you can easily tease and flirt your way into hooking up with her.

Speak to Spark Attraction…

Chris Tyler

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How to Overcome Shyness Around Women – 5 Tips on Being Able to Confidently Talk to Women

Friday, August 27th, 2010

There are definitely varying degrees of shyness that men will exhibit with women. Some guys have no problems at all approaching and talking to women, and others are utterly terrified of even approaching a woman that they do not already know, or one that they do not know very well. And a lot of guys are really somewhere in the middle.

Sometimes they can confidently start a conversation with a woman, and then there are other times when they just cannot seem to make it happen.

I am going to kind of “target” this article at guys that are really uncomfortable when talking to women, and depending on where you find yourself, you may be able to pick up a few things here and there, even if you are more in the middle, so to speak.

First of all, I would like you to think of where the fear comes from. Was there EVER a time in your life that you did not have any fear about talking to women, or was it always that way?

I know for myself, that there have been times when it seemed like I could approach any woman that I wanted to and I did not even think twice about it, and there have been just as many times when I felt as though I could not even start a conversation with a butt ugly chick.

Obviously in those situations, where the woman is not attractive, it is not a situation where you are intimidated by her looks.

For many guys, the fear comes from the “unkown.”

What do I mean by this?

At many different points in your life, I can assume that the majority of your social circle, or your social network has consisted of mostly other men. Don’t count female family members, and I bet that the majority of the time, your social circle has mostly been other guys.

So, right there, you kind of have a disconnection from women, and you probably are not really sure what to talk about, and you have no real reference points in your mind that shows you that you can easily start a conversation with a woman.

Now, I can also bet that there have been times when your social circle did have at least a couple of females in there. Maybe it was in high school or college. During those times, I will also bet that you found it at least a little bit easier to talk to women.

Why?

Because you had those reference points in your mind, you have examples and memories of conversations with women, and that was enough to tell you that you DID know how to talk to women, at least on some level.

The reason why I am digging into this area, is because most men that have a REALLY hard time talking to women… don’t talk to women that often.

And that is the source of a lot of the fear and the awkwardness, it’s the inexperience.

So, here are 5 tips on how to overcome shyness with women and be able to confidently talk to women:


1. Become friends with at least one female.

And I do mean friends and nothing more. You want to introduce some females into your life and your social circle. The change that you can make just by doing this alone can be profound. One guy that I worked with took this one bit of advice and kind of ran with it. He wound up making friends with quite a few women, and suddenly he saw that he could talk to women, no problems at all.

He built new references and experiences in his mind, ones that he could pull from at any time, and realize that he DID have the skills to talk to any woman that he wanted. The result? He started dating more women in one year than he had in the previous 5 years.

2. Approach at least one woman per week that you do not know and start a conversation, no matter how small.

Eventually, if you really want to get this area of your life “mastered,” then I suggest that you up it to one woman per day. The point of doing this is not to get a date or a phone number, at least not at first. It’s about overcoming the “shock” of approaching women that you do not know, and starting a conversation with her.

Soon, whatever fears that you might have will start to subside, and you will realize that it can actually be kind of easy to start a conversation with a woman, even when you don’t know her at all.

3. Now that you have started to get female friends and started to talk to women that you do not know, start to build up for something more.

Once you have a female friend, and hopefully more than just one in your network, and you have started to approach women that you do not know and get a conversation going, it’s time to UP the ante. You now want to start at least getting some phone numbers from women.

When you approach a woman that you do not know and the conversation seems to be fun and maybe even a little flirty, ask her for her phone number. Sure, she might say NO, and she might just move on after that. The point is to get used to asking for her number so that way, the shock of doing that will just wear off.

4. After the first one or two or maybe even three women, you have probably gotten at least one phone number, and now, you want to get comfortable making plans or dates.

Obviously, you are not approaching women just to have a stash of phone numbers, right? The whole point in getting the phone number is to work up to a date with her, and of course, maybe even more than that. So, you want to get used to talking to her on the phone, at least enough to make plans.

Depending on your personality, a short conversation may be better and more effective than a longer one. The more silent pauses there are, the more it will seem like she would be bored on a date with you. So, if that is your personality, make it short, touch base with her, and get her to meet you somewhere. My favorite thing has always been to get a woman to hop on the train and head into Manhattan, yours may be different.

5. This is probably the MOST important tip of all– Think of EVERY FAILED ATTEMPT AS JUST A PRACTICE RUN.

If you think of every rejection or every conversation that leads to nowhere as just being a test run, a practice, then it will not have as big of an impact on you as if you think of it as being just another sign that you suck with women. You probably DON’T suck with women as much as you think you do, and when it starts to “click” and you start to get more and more dates with women, then you will look back on all of those failed attempts as just being either funny or a lesson learned and nothing more.

There is no shortage of women that are worth dating out there, so don’t have the mentality that you let one get away and that you might never get another opportunity like that. Look around, beautiful women are everywhere, and every day you can end up coming across a woman that is even better than the last.

Even though it can be intimidating at first, and you might think that you have nothing worth saying, the more times that you get out there, you will discover how to talk to women in a way that builds intense attraction.

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How to Attract Women – 4 Tips to Win the Heart of Any Woman You DESIRE!

Saturday, May 15th, 2010

Want to know what you should be doing to win the heart of any woman that you desire? For some guys, the question of how to attract women always goes unanswered. They never quite get it, they never figure out what it is that attracts a woman, and what makes her fall hard and fast for one particular guy. If you do understand female attraction, then you CAN be that guy that women fall for and you can make just about any woman you desire fall in love with you.

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Before you assume that it’s going to be too hard, or somehow out of your reach, you may want to keep reading. Female attraction is not rocket science, and the truth is, even guys that are overweight, pretty average looking, and just plain normal can discover how to attract women and make a woman fall for them.

Here are 4 tips to do exactly that:

1. Being able to talk to women without getting obviously nervous is key.

When you are talking to a woman, there are a lot of things that can give away what you are really feeling. Your tone of voice, your body language, the rate at which you speak are all things that can make a woman see that you are nervous when talking to her. And if a woman sees that you are indeed nervous talking to her, she’s going to automatically feel a little bit like she is out of your league. However, if you control your body language, your tone of voice, and the rate at which you speak, you can make her feel like YOU are out of her league.

2. When you flirt with a woman, don’t make it seem like you are trying too hard to win her approval.

A guy that is pretty obviously seeking a woman’s approval is not going to come across like a man that has confidence. You will also not come across like the kind of guy that has choice when it comes to which women he decides who to date and who to spend time with. You WANT a woman to see you as the kind of guy that does not need her approval in the least bit, and the kind of man that SHE is going to have to win over. This is how you are going to be able to make her see you as a true and genuine alpha male.

3. If you don’t want to lose her interest, then you HAVE to be able to throw her for a loop.

What I mean to say by this, is that you cannot do the expected things all of the time. You have to be unexpected to make her feel an increasing amount of attraction and desire for you. You have to make a woman feel like she never knows what she is going to get, as long as it always something good and enjoyable. For example, if you have five dates in a row with a woman, and for every single one of them you end up doing the same exact thing, then you are NOT doing a good job of surprising her. This helps to keep things fresh, which is ALWAYS a good thing.

4. She’s got to wonder whether or not she really has you or not.

Most guys, especially if they find the woman really appealing, or they are kind of desperate just to have someone in their life, will pretty much let a woman know right away that she can have them any way that she wants. This is when you are going to end up being whipped, wrapped around her finger, and slowly losing any appeal that she might have had for you. You want to keep a woman on her toes and wondering whether or not she really has you. The suspense of it all will create intense sexual attraction with her, and that is definitely something to shoot for.

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Shy Guy Dating- How to Get Over Being Shy and Instead Be The Guy That Gets The Girl!

Tuesday, April 6th, 2010

Shy Guy Dating | Shy Around Women | How to Get Over Being Shy Around Women

There are many different levels of shyness around women that some guys have.  Actually,  to some extent ALL guys have a level of shyness around women.  For some,  the woman has to be an Angelina Jolie type to make them feel shy and for others,  just about ANY woman will make them close off and feel uncomfortable.

There’s nothing wrong with being shy around women,  unless it gets in the way of you feeling good about yourself and confident enough to be able to approach a woman when you feel attracted to her.

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If you feel like your social life needs a jolt and the shyness around women is TOO much,  then I will show you a few tricks to get over this.

There’s one thing that you HAVE TO remember,  though.  Just reading words on a screen are NOT going to change your life.  Taking action on them will.

I’ve encountered guys that say they already know all of the tricks to attract women,  yet they end up staying home on the weekend when they would much rather be out with a woman,  having fun,  and hopefully ending the night with some mind numbing sex.

Here are some tips to get over your shyness with women:

1.  You have to get comfortable speaking to women.

One of the problems that shy guys tend to have is that feel like talking to a woman is somehow on some higher level than talking to a guy or talking to a female relative.  The mind trick to use is to get yourself to realize that she is NO different at all,  and to realize that you probably won’t have a hard time finding at least some common ground to get started with.  Once you get the conversation going,  it’s not nearly as intimidating as it is to just get yourself to make the move and talk to her.

2.  Start interacting with women that you are not attracted to,  just to get used to flirting and talking with them.

If you lack much of any experience at all with women,  then you have to go and get yourself some.  Now,  I’m not saying that you have to date or sleep with women that you don’t find attractive.  But,  you do have to get used to talking and flirting with them.  You will most likely find that you don’t feel much of any pressure at all,  especially because you already know that you are NOT trying to get with her.  The goal is to just get used to being around women and knowing how to talk and flirt with them without feeling like you are under pressure or feeling any intimidation at all.

3.  Take baby steps.

If you are really shy with women,  then maybe going out tonight and approaching a woman that you would consider to be a ’10′ is just too much.  So,  take it in baby steps.  Go out and approach an average looking woman.  Talk to her,  flirt with her,  maybe get her to dance.  Hell,  even go for her phone number.  Whatever way you want to see it,  you cannot expect to just overnight become so comfortable that you can approach a model type and have no hesitations or reservations.  It’s just not going to happen like that.

4.  Get a group of female friends.

I find that most men that are really too shy with women have either none or only one or two real female friends.  So,  women almost seem foreign to them.  You can easily find a couple of girls to just be friends with and get used to going out with them.  Not only will this help you in getting over being shy with women,  but it also helps when you go out looking to pick up a woman.  If you go out and you have a group of women around you,  other women will notice you and they will automatically think that you must be a cool guy that they should get to know.  It’s simple social proof,  but,  it works.

5.  Approach as many women as you can,  as quickly as you can.

If you want to get over being shy with women really FAST,  then you want to approach as many women as you can.  We become desensitized to anything the more that we come into contact with it.  The same reason why young kids that play violent video games become desensitized to violent acts,  can actually help you with women.  When you approach as many women as possible,  by the tenth or twentieth time,  it becomes nothing at all to you.

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