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How to Approach Women – Has THIS Ever Happened to You?

Thursday, October 6th, 2011

As guys, we all know that the approach on a woman is one of the biggest hurdles that you can clear when it comes to getting your dating life handled. Actually, if you cannot make the approach, is more like being stuck in the starting gates, and instead of you getting in and enjoying the race, you are watching everyone else leave you in the dust. And there’s no way that you are going to get to the finish line if you can’t even get out the gates, right?

So, if you are having a hard time with approaching women, then this is something that you need to take care of as soon as possible, or else you are going to get left behind and watch all the other guys end up with the women you want to be with. That’s even worse than not being able to finish a silly little race. Not being able to get dates with women because you cannot make the approach is one sure fire way to guarantee that you are going to be spending some lonely nights with your eyes glued to your computer screen.

There are so many little variables that you need to get just right when you approach a woman that it can be more than just a little intimidating. You want to make sure that she doesn’t think that you are some weirdo or some loser and you want to make sure that you are not making things worse for yourself by looking goofy as you walk on over to her.

HAS THIS EVER HAPPENED TO YOU?

You spot a woman and you can’t seem to shake your eyes off of her one bit. She’s breathtaking and in the lighting of the club, she looks absolutely seductive. You stand there, eyes gazing at her, taking in every bit of her from the top down to the bottom. And the funniest thing happens. She’s looking over at you and you can swear that she wants you to come over to her.

You glance back behind you, just to try and play it cool like you really were not just eye balling her from across the room. And your eyes, almost like they cannot help themselves go right back to checking her out. Inside your head, you are trying to ‘pep’ yourself up into getting the courage to leave your cozy little nest next to the bar and walk on over to her.

Your heart’s beating fast and you finally get yourself amped up enough to do it.

So, you start walking over to her, trying to navigate your way through the crowd as they dance to some obnoxious techno pop mix playing through the P.A. system and she’s looking right back at you. You are excited, already anticipating what might happen if you don’t blow it and you get a chance to hook up with her. She looks away as you get close to her and suddenly… the vibe changes.

All of the confidence that you felt, that high that you were riding is gone now. It’s been replaced with a familiar feeling of angst and anxiety as you realize that she’s not giving you the clear sign that you were hoping for. You get within a couple of feet of her, and you barely get out the words, “Hey.”

She looks back at you and gives you a look almost of contempt. Now you are frozen. The only thing that comes to mind is to ask her to dance to that obnoxious techno pop that you loathe so much and her response is, “No, I’m just waiting for a friend of mine. Oh… I think I see her.”

She takes off and gets herself lost in the crowd. Was she really going to meet up with a friend? Did you really misread her from across the room?

You want to believe that she really is off somewhere in the crowd with her friend and that she really did have to go meet her right then. But, you know the truth. Somewhere in those few moments that you made your approach… you lost her. When you were standing in your cozy little nest at the bar and she was standing across the room… she wanted you.

What happened in those precious few moments?

It’s amazing how quickly attraction can be lost and how hard it can see to gain it. And unfortunately, situations like this happen all of the time to average guys, nice guys, and even experienced guys. And it does not matter who you are… it can make you feel like you might as well never approach another woman again. At least, not until you get it figured out.

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How to Approach Women – Are You Comfortable With Rejection?

Friday, June 17th, 2011

Whenever I get asked by a close friend or buddy of mine to give them some pointers or advice on how to approach women, one of the first questions I will ask is… “Are you comfortable with rejection?” Now, when I ask a question like that, I usually already know what the response is going to be. And I also usually get met with a puzzled look on their face. The reason why I ask this question is, because most men that do not have much success with approaching women are not comfortable with rejection. The converse is also true, though. Most men who are pretty successful at approaching women ARE comfortable with rejection.

Some years back, I made a quantum leap in my results that I got with approaching women. I went from being the guy who would take a look at the super hot woman from across the room, think about approaching her, and then talk myself out of it. The reason for this was simple. At that time, I was NOT comfortable with rejection. I hated it, and to be honest, I kind of feared it.

Problem is… that hatred of rejection and that fear of it… held me back from actually seizing opportunities to go and talk to beautiful women. I could approach an average woman without much problem, but the super attractive ones? Not so much. Then one day, I just FORCED myself. And it was uncomfortable at first but I found out something that most men just do not get.

Approaching a beautiful woman was not all that different from approaching an average looking one. I mean, it really is basically the same thing, it’s just one looks hotter than the other. I know, that’s pretty superficial of me, but hey, I’m a guy what can I say, lol.

You HAVE To Become Comfortable With Rejection…

In all honesty, your odds of getting rejected by an average looking woman versus a really good looking woman are almost the same. Sure, you might do a little better with the average ones, but when it comes right down to it… it’s not that big of a difference. So, the first thing that you really need to do is… become comfortable with rejection.

It’s not going to end your world. It might sting for a bit, but once you get past that initial sting, it’s not really all that bad. It can help you to learn for the next time. And the beautiful thing about it is, once you are okay with it, it just tends to happen less and less. Don’t ask me why… it just DOES.

Every guy I know that does really well with women has no problem with getting rejected. It does not tank their self esteem and it does not keep them from moving on to the next one. And that is the attitude that you need to have if you really want to know how to approach women. Think of it like this… when was the last time the Yankees went an entire season undefeated?

Answer: NEVER!

So, don’t think that you have to be perfect or that there is some way to completely eliminate rejection, because just like the Yankees have to lose even when they dominate a season… you will get rejected from time to time even when you do incredibly well with women.

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How to Approach Women – Confidence Is Not Enough

Sunday, May 15th, 2011

You’ve probably already heard it before. That in order to approach a woman and get a positive response from her, you need to be confident. Well, that is definitely true to some extent. You don’t want to approach a woman when you are obviously lacking confidence in yourself. But, is confidence alone the magic bullet that it is made out to be?

When I was a little younger, I knew a guy who had all of the confidence in the world. No matter where we went, he had no problems at all walking up to women and starting conversations. It was like he never even gave it a second thought. So, you would probably think that he did pretty well with women, right? Especially since they always say that confidence is the make or break factor when it comes to approaching women. Well, he may have had the confidence to approach women, but I can tell you… he hardly ever even got so much as a phone number, much less anything more than that.

Confidence is just the beginning…

If you are counting on confidence alone as being the one and only factor in your success with women, expect to see a lot of hit or miss results. Meaning, don’t be surprised when you find out that you have to approach quite a few women just to get one phone number or one date. Just being sure of yourself is not enough to get dates with women, at least not the really attractive ones, the ones that you want to date.

Do you need to be confident?

Absolutely. However, what are you going to do after you approach a woman? How are you going to make her go from just meeting you to wanting to be with you? The friend that I was talking about certainly never lacked confidence in himself. What he did lack was the conversational skills that build attraction with a woman.

See, he would approach women, start talking to them, and immediately drone on and on about topics that were more or less boring to the woman. So, while he had no problems when it came to making the approach, he certainly did have problems in getting anywhere at all with the women he would open.

You need to know how to talk to women…

This is one of the best skills that any man can develop and it does not just help you out when it comes to building attraction with women. Being able to start conversations with people you don’t already know and have them actually enjoy talking to you can open up new doors. It can get you a better job, it can get your phone numbers and dates with women.

When you know how to talk to women and leave them hanging on your EVERY word, getting dates becomes EASY…

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How to Approach Women in Bars and Nightclubs – 3 Tips on How to Make Yourself Stand Out

Saturday, September 25th, 2010

When you are in a crowded, lively place like a bar or a nightclub, one of the hardest things is to get noticed by women. The music is loud, the place is kind of dark, and there are lots of people there. How does a guy like yourself stand out and get noticed by women, and more importantly, come off like the kind of guy that she wants to get to know a little better?

Clubs and bars can be easy spots to meet women, but since they are so easy, there is always going to be a lot of competition from other guys. You can’t change this, it is what it is. So, you have to learn how to play the hand you are dealt, and come off like you are the ONE she should be taking notice of.

Here are 3 tips on how to approach women in bars and nightclubs and make her pay attention to YOU:

1. You have to dress in a way that stands out from the rest.

Like it or not, your appearance IS going to be the first thing that she notices. When you spot a woman from a distance and she sees that you are approaching her, she is going to be taking a quick inventory of you to see what kind of “vibe” she gets from you. If you give her the wrong kind of a vibe, then you are not going to make quite the same impression on her as you would if you gave off the “right” vibe. Dressing in a way that makes you seem friendly and fun, while standing out from the crowd is the best way to give yourself a good first impression on a woman.

2. You need to be the one that kind of guides the conversation, don’t leave it up to her.

Want to see one of the most awkward moments in a bar or a club? It’s when the guy nervously makes his approach, gets up to the woman, and then has nothing to say to her or leaves it up to her to guide the conversation. Be a man, take your role, and be the one that guides the conversation. This will automatically put you in the position of being the alpha male and it will take some of the awkwardness or weirdness off of her.

3. Get in close when you are talking to her, touch her lightly as you talk.

One of the best things about approaching women in bars and nightclubs, is that with all of the loudness, the darkness, and the crowdedness; there are a lot of opportunities to get close to a woman and get that physical intimacy started right away. Don’t shy away from getting close to her, and while you talk to her put your hand lightly on her shoulder or her leg if you are getting the right vibe.

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How to Approach Women Confidently – 4 Ways to Boost Your Confidence With Women

Monday, September 6th, 2010

One of the biggest sticking points for any guy is confidence when it comes to approach women, and even just in dating in general. If you are not really confident about your ability to approach and attract women, then you probably are not going to end up trying much, are you?

You will just rationalize reasons for why you can’t get the girl, when in reality, you have no idea unless you actually make the move.

I can relate to not having the confidence to approach women. There was a time when the only women that I dated were ones that I already knew, whether it was through friends or work or school.

Then, I got tossed in the real world, and found that it was much harder for me to meet and date women. All of this was because of not having the confidence to approach women that I did not already know.

I have found that this is a pretty common theme amongst men, and that most guys just never do a thing about it. They just go along and hope that somehow, the “right” woman will just float into their life. And they end up going through LONG periods of time in between relationships.

Here are 4 ways to approach women confidently and boost your overall confidence with women:

1. Work your way up the ladder.

Now, I know that this will be about the most politically incorrect thing that I can say, but let me tell you, it works wonders. I call it working your way up the ladder, and all it means is, before you go and approach women that are drop dead beautiful, practice approaching average looking women. It will enable you to get a little better each time, and make you feel a lot more comfortable around women. So, when you DO move up to the more attractive women, you are already kind of used to making women find you appealing.

2. Go it alone if you have to.

This is one of the things that helped me out, and I think it can help out a lot of guys with the same issue. It can be hard to approach women when you know that you have a group of your buddies behind you, laughing, and acting the fool. If you want to practice on approaching women, sometimes it IS better to go it alone. You don’t feel like you have to report back to your boys, and if you do get shot down, there is no one there to tease you about it. Some guys though, will feel better when they are with their boys, so it really is up to you.

3. Talk to any woman that you can, be a talker.

When you are checking out at the store, or ordering food from your waitress, get a conversation started. You may not end up dating her, and you might not even want to. all it does is give you more and more opportunities to speak to women. And the more times you get POSITIVE feedback, the more confident you will grow. Make your waitress smile and laugh, and it will start to become “normal” for you to talk to women that you don’t know.

4. Realize that when you approach a woman, she might be as nervous as you are.

Though most women are used to being approached by guys by a certain age, that does not mean that she will not be a little nervous about it. Keep that in mind, and you will realize that you don’t have to be PERFECT to end up getting her number. I can’t tell you how many times that I swore I messed up, only to end up dating the girl that I thought I messed up on.

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How to Approach Women in Bars, Clubs, and Anywhere Else You Might Go

Wednesday, September 1st, 2010

The approach is definitely something that most guys allow to get the best of them. And when you are a little too hesitant to approach women, you are going to put a lot of restrictions on yourself. After all, how are you going to meet new women if you cannot go over and make the approach? You’re not, unless you somehow get lucky and they all just are magically drawn to you, and the odds of that happening are not really that good.

The most common places for guys to go and hopefully approach women are bars and clubs. Truth is, you should work on getting used to approaching women anywhere, because there are so many more opportunities outside of these places. And most of the time, women are going to be a lot less hesitant when you approach them outside of a club.

Just the other day, I was at a miniature golf course, just having fun with some friends, and as luck would have it, a group of college girls ended up right behind us. Of course, I did not let that opportunity slide by, and by the time we reached the 18th hole, they were playing with us and ended up going out for drinks later that night.

Point is, you need to be able to make the approach anywhere that you might go if you want to become really successful with women.

Here are 3 tips on how to approach women in bars, clubs, and anywhere else you might go:

1. You need to relax and not take it so seriously.

I see a lot of this in guys that have a hard time approaching women. They make it out to be this big deal, like approaching a girl is some kind of big event. You need to relax and not be so taken aback by the idea of walking up to a woman and starting a conversation with her. Most of the time, the worst that will happen is that you talk for a little bit and end up with nothing but that experience. That’s usually about the worst of what will happen. No big deal there, is it?

2. You need to make women laugh when you talk to them.

It’s the easiest thing to do to automatically make them feel comfortable with you approaching and talking to them. Especially in non bar and club situations. Crack a little joke and get something started. When you can make a woman laugh, she no longer really thinks of you as being some guy that she does not know. She thinks of you as being the cool guy that made her crack a smile.

3. You need to be able to “up the ante.”

If you want to have the interaction be MORE than just a simple conversation, then you need to up the ante. What I mean is, you need to keep the conversation flowing with her, build attraction, and then have a reason to ask for her number or to hang out with her. When I was at the golf course, I ended up making a bet that it would be guys versus girls and whoever won, would buy the other group drinks. You see what I did there? No matter what, if we won or lost, we still would end up having drinks with them. Luckily, we won, and they DID pay for the drinks.

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Tips on How to Approach Women – 3 Approaching Tips You Need to Know

Monday, July 5th, 2010

Most guys are pretty much out of the loop when it comes to to the subject of approaching women. When you approach a woman and you don’t really know what you are doing, it can be one of the most uncomfortable feelings in the world. And when you feel that way, you are not going to make a good first impression on her, and let me tell you, first impressions count a lot.

So, you DO have to know how to approach women if you are ever going to be able to score a woman’s phone number, a date with her, or something more. But, that does not really do you a lot of good until you really have it down on what works when you approach a woman in a way that is going to leave her feeling impressed by you.

Here are 3 tips on how to approach women that will enable you to do just that:

1. Always smile but not in a way that looks intentional. What I mean by not looking intentional, is that you want to appear like you are just naturally smiling, not like you are doing it for a specific reason. This gives off the impression that you are just a happy guy, the kind of man that most women have no problem starting a conversation with.

2. You have to make your approach quickly without thinking about it too much. Some guys swear by a three second rule, and while I don’t agree that it always has to be that quick, you also don’t want to hem and haw for 20 minutes before you actually go and approach a woman. Especially if she has noticed that you are checking her out, because well, that’s the kind of thing that most women will find to be a little on the creepy side.

3. Your body language has to talk to her before you even make the approach. Body language accounts for anywhere from 70-90 percent of communication depending on which expert you talk to and so, you want to make sure that you do not neglect what your body language is saying to a woman. Keeping your body language OPEN will make a woman a lot more likely to WANT you to come and talk to her.

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How to Approach Women – 4 Keys to Approaching Beautiful Women

Tuesday, May 4th, 2010

You have to admit that it can be a little intimidating and unnerving to think about approaching beautiful women. If you want to know how to approach women without fear and hesitation holding you back, there are some tricks that you can use to make it easier on yourself. You are not going to be very successful attracting women if you cannot approach beautiful women, so, you have to get this part of your life handled ASAP.

One of the hang ups that a LOT of men seem to have, and it is quite common, is to have the fear of rejection from a woman. And this fear will keep you from even bothering to walk up and approach a woman if you feel the slightest bit of nerves creep in on you.

Here are 4 keys to approaching beautiful women that should help you master this part of your life:

1. Breathe normal. When people get nervous, men and women, their breathing changes. And this kind of sets off a chain of events throughout their body and then, that’s when the nerves really hit. When you feel like this, you will not approach beautiful women for anything. By allowing yourself to just breathe normal, you will eliminate that chain of events and make it feel a lot more comfortable to approach a woman.

2. Walk like an alpha male. How does an alpha male walk? With relaxed, upright posture and a smooth stride. Walk too fast and you seem too eager or even a little nervous. If you let your shoulders slump and your eyes hit the floor, you look like the kind of guy that lets life run over him. None of these things will make you seem attractive to the woman that you are going to approach.

3. Look around. Don’t just stare at the woman that you are approaching. That does not look normal and like she is not that big of a deal. Look around, just do it casually. Give her the impression that you may or may not be approaching her. Basically, keep her guessing. You want to add an element of surprise to this, and when she sees that you cannot take your eyes off of her, there will be NO surprise at all.

4. Have an opener and not a line. Most guys that defend the use of pickup lines all say that hey, you need to open a conversation with a woman. Of course, this is true. However, there is a big difference between opening a conversation with a woman and dropping some generic line on her. Both will get a conversation started, but one will impress her, while the other makes her want to roll her eyes.

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