You’ve been told time and time again that sucking up to a woman is one of the cardinal sins of seduction.
You know that when you suck up to a woman, you are subconsciously placing yourself beneath her, and as long as you place yourself beneath her… she will never be beneath you.
Still, you aren’t quite sure where the ‘line’ is, what constitutes the difference between sucking up to a woman and simply complimenting her.
When you are unsure of a simple, yet complex thing like this… it can make you go mad.
It can make you get stuck in a never ending loop inside your head where you are trying hard to figure out if you said the right thing or the wrong thing.
Let’s close that loop once and for all.
Let’s make a line where we identify the distinction between sucking up and complimenting a woman.
Here’s an example of a simple compliment:
“Your hair looks nice like that. Kind of reminds me of Audrey Hepburn, I think.”
Here’s an example of sucking up to a woman:
“Oh my God, you look so beautiful. I can’t take my eyes off of you. You are gorgeous. Absolutely gorgeous. Better looking than any model I have ever seen. Just wow!”
In the compliment, you are merely stating what you think. You think her hair looks nice. And it seems genuine because you are giving a comparison to someone who is usually regarded as being beautiful, but you are not overdoing it.
I think the difference is obvious in the sucking up example.
In that example, the guy would be going overboard with it. It goes from being a pretty high compliment to just over the top. It goes from slightly believable to just downright unbelievable.
The reason why the compliment works, is because of the fact that it comes off as being believable. Not only that, if her mind is going a million miles a minute trying to process the compliment, it has all sorts of implications, without being very verbose.
It gives her a boost, while still leaving a LOT to the imagination, her imagination.
When you suck up to a woman, it seems false and phony. It leaves nothing to her imagination.
Here’s another comparison of complimenting a woman versus sucking up to her…
Compliment:
“You must stay pretty active, you’re in good shape.”
Sucking Up:
“Wow, you’re body is so sexy. I mean, it’s like perfect. You have the sexiest body on the planet.”
Again, the compliment is a lot more toned down, it is a little less direct (good for the imagination, as well as mystery) and it actually seems pretty genuine.
The suck up seems like a guy who’s desperate to score some points or score some sex.
The compliment sets things up where she is not quite sure what it is you are implying. You might just mean that she really looks like she works out. Or you might be saying in a subtle way that you think she is sexy.
The compliment will go a much longer way to building up a woman’s attraction because of the fact that it seems genuine, works up a little mystery, it still flatters her a bit… and it does not make you seem like you are just desperate for “points” or for sex.
Here is what else it does for you.
When a woman gets a compliment, where there is still an air of mystery to it, she will ask her friends what they think it means. She will talk about it for days.
That whole time that she is asking her friends and thinking about it for days… YOU are on her mind.
Even if she does not realize it, that whole process of her asking her friends and thinking about what it all means, it is building up her attraction to you.
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