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How to Approach Women – Confidence Is Not Enough

Sunday, May 15th, 2011

You’ve probably already heard it before. That in order to approach a woman and get a positive response from her, you need to be confident. Well, that is definitely true to some extent. You don’t want to approach a woman when you are obviously lacking confidence in yourself. But, is confidence alone the magic bullet that it is made out to be?

When I was a little younger, I knew a guy who had all of the confidence in the world. No matter where we went, he had no problems at all walking up to women and starting conversations. It was like he never even gave it a second thought. So, you would probably think that he did pretty well with women, right? Especially since they always say that confidence is the make or break factor when it comes to approaching women. Well, he may have had the confidence to approach women, but I can tell you… he hardly ever even got so much as a phone number, much less anything more than that.

Confidence is just the beginning…

If you are counting on confidence alone as being the one and only factor in your success with women, expect to see a lot of hit or miss results. Meaning, don’t be surprised when you find out that you have to approach quite a few women just to get one phone number or one date. Just being sure of yourself is not enough to get dates with women, at least not the really attractive ones, the ones that you want to date.

Do you need to be confident?

Absolutely. However, what are you going to do after you approach a woman? How are you going to make her go from just meeting you to wanting to be with you? The friend that I was talking about certainly never lacked confidence in himself. What he did lack was the conversational skills that build attraction with a woman.

See, he would approach women, start talking to them, and immediately drone on and on about topics that were more or less boring to the woman. So, while he had no problems when it came to making the approach, he certainly did have problems in getting anywhere at all with the women he would open.

You need to know how to talk to women…

This is one of the best skills that any man can develop and it does not just help you out when it comes to building attraction with women. Being able to start conversations with people you don’t already know and have them actually enjoy talking to you can open up new doors. It can get you a better job, it can get your phone numbers and dates with women.

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How to Pick Up Women in Bars- 4 No-No’s Of Bar Pick Ups

Wednesday, March 9th, 2011

Time and time again, the number one spot men will always seem to flock to when they want to pick up women is the bar. For years, the bar scene has been practically synonymous with singles mixing and mingling, wanting to get to know each other and even hook up for the night. While the bar scene is a great place to meet women, it’s certainly not a guarantee that you will head to your local nightspot, grab a beer, and get a woman’s number or even a fling.

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Sometimes when I am at a bar, I will scan around and kind of just shake my head as I watch guy after guy making all of the same mistakes as they try their best to pick up women around them. Half the time, they don’t even realize that they are not doing as well as they think they are, and it’s not until the end of the night when they have to head out the door alone that they realize that they did not have any luck that night.

If you want to know how to pick up women in bars, then you first have to know what things you should not do. That way, you will have a much clearer picture on what you should be doing and what really works to pick up women in bars.

Here are 4 No- No’s of picking up women in bars that will keep you from having the kind of success you should be having:

1. Drinking to excess and then using that liquid courage to give you the balls to approach a woman.

Liquid courage is a funny thing. It may give you the balls to walk up to that woman you have had your eye on since you walked in, but it will almost always guarantee that you end up saying or doing something stupid that will make her look at you as a guy she would never hook up with.

Yes, there are the drunk girls who this is not a problem for them all that much, but those are also the ones that you will wake up next to the next morning and kind of wish that you had shown a little more discretion. There’s nothing wrong with having a drink or two and then approaching a woman without being inebriated, but once that buzz kicks in… your odds of getting her to go home with you usually drop significantly.

2. Sliding up next to a woman and honestly using the cheesiest pick line you ever heard and believing that it will make her want you.

There’s nothing wrong to drop a cheesy line on a woman if you have a good delivery and it’s obviously just a put on to make her laugh or get her talking, but if you honestly drop a line like that on her and expect that it is going to make her feel like she just has to be with you, think again.

Pick up lines are all well and good and I guess that anything that you use to open a conversation can be considered a pick up line, but when you feel that this is the secret to getting laid, you need to do some deeper thinking. Most women you will meet that are worth dating or going to bed with are not going to be impressed and most will be put off if you really think you will win her over with something cheesy. Like I said, it’s all good to use one with a good delivery to make her laugh, but that’s about it.

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3. Going to a bar with a pack of your guy friends to pick up women.

The minute a group of 4 or 5 guys or more walk into a bar, all scoping out to see what the women look like, most of the women there will already be on their guard knowing that these guys are just looking to pick up women. The problem with having a pack of guys with you is that you are more than likely going to get a lot more resistance from women, as they are protective of themselves and not only that… it’s just DAMN obvious that you are out to get laid.

The other big problem when 4 or more guys get together with the explicit intention of picking up women is, they almost always start to compete with each other. Meaning, buddies will be cock blocking buddies, especially if there are only a few really good looking women in the place. Mix that with some booze and friendships can end up getting kicked to the curb and the worst part is… usually no one gets laid anyway.

4. Trying to make moves at the very end of the night.

Now, I’ll be honest, this wasn’t much of a problem when I was under 25 and so were all of the girls that I would approach were as well. But, when you get over the age of 25 and closing time is at 4 am, chances are… you are not going to get a lay if you approach her at 3:30 am. Unless of course she is just desperate to get laid herself.

I’ve seen this happen a lot, even to friends of mine. They spend most of the night thinking about approaching a woman and thinking about it some more. Then, when they realize that it’s getting close to closing time and they have had about 6 beers, they want to make the move. By that time, all of the really good looking women have either hooked up or are ready to go home and aren’t open to anything else, and all that is left is the women you could have gotten in the first 30 minutes.

It’s always fun to go to a bar and get a chance to pick up a woman, and in some towns, it’s about the only place you can go to late at night. Just be sure that you do it right and you don’t end up making these 4 mistakes.

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Dating Tips for Men Over 40- How to Attract Women No Matter What Your Age Is

Monday, March 7th, 2011

Some guys seem to limit themselves when it comes to dating when they get past the age of 40. They assume that they have reached a point in life where they don’t have the luxury of being able to select and choose the women they date. Maybe they even get a little hopeless and decide to stick with the first woman who comes along. The thing of it is, it does not have to be that way for You.

Just because you have reached a certain age, you don’t have to give up on wanting to either find the right woman for you, OR, to just have a little fun playing the field. Most of the limitations are just in your own mind anyway, and you don’t have to allow them to keep you from attracting the kind of women you really desire to be with.

Here are some dating tips for men over age 40 to help you attract women no matter what your age is:

1. If you are going to be serious about having no limits as to whom you can attract, get things in order as quickly as possible.

This is something that should be done at any age, but especially when you get past the age of 40. You want to have real goals and dreams that a woman can attach herself to and feel attracted to you for being someone who is doing things with his life. Get in shape if that is something that you need to do. Go and start getting some fun hobbies that make your life a little more exciting. Whatever can make your life better and yourself a little more attractive to boot, go ahead and do it.

2. No matter what age you are, as a man you need to be able to approach women you don’t know.

The only way to really get around this is to have a never ending supply of blind dates that your friends set you up with, and for most people that is not going to happen. So, you need to be able to confidently approach a woman and know what the right things to say to open a conversation with her and then guide that conversation to a point where it can lead to something more.

3. Set your sights on only the women you really want to date.

This is something that you really need to do. You need to sit down and really think about what kind of women you want to attract into your life. Do you want to just have a good time or do you want to settle into a long term relationship? Knowing what you want will help make it easier for you to actually go out and get it. And women love to be around a man who knows what he wants and does something about it.

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How to Get a Girlfriend – Tips to Make a Woman Want to Know What It’s Like to Date YOU

Saturday, August 7th, 2010

Every single, straight guy out there wants to be able to have a girlfriend. And the sad truth is, that most guys end up either hopelessly single, or they fall for the first woman that they can find. They don’t feel like they deserve the possibility of attracting the kind of woman that they REALLY desire. They don’t feel like they have the know how to make a woman want to know what it is like to date them.

Well, you can be the exception to the rule and be one of those guys that gets clued in to what will make a woman want to date you, even when she seems to be WAY out of your league. If you think that it is impossible to do this, then you NEED to keep READING this article.

Here are some tips on how to get a girlfriend that will help you get the women that you DREAM about dating:

1. Work on developing a SOLID inner game.

This is still the most overlooked aspect of dating, and until you really handle your inner game, your outer game is always going to fall short of your expectations. Being able to develop a solid inner confidence and see yourself as the kind of guy that women want to date is a necessary trait that you must have. You have to BELIEVE that women want you, and then you will start to actually see your reality show evidence of this. It might sound a little bit out there, but you will believe it when you start to see how women respond to you.

2. Find out what women really respond to.

There is a big difference between what sounds good and what really is. See, it sounds good to say that women want a sensitive guy that will handle their every need, but when you look at what a woman responds to, you start to see a much different picture. The classic and traditional dating advice is sweet sounding fluff, but in the dating world, you need to work with techniques that women actually respond to.

3. Get out and APPROACH women whenever and wherever you can.

You need to get excited about the idea of being able to attract a girlfriend. Seriously, you need to be able to go out and find out where the women are and start to approach them. Getting comfortable with making the approach does take some time and experience, and you need to be able to get it out of the way as soon as you possibly can. Don’t be one of those guys that sits at home 24/7, and then complains about how hard it is to get a girlfriend. Be a DOER and make it HAPPEN!

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Tips on How to Approach Women – 3 Approaching Tips You Need to Know

Monday, July 5th, 2010

Most guys are pretty much out of the loop when it comes to to the subject of approaching women. When you approach a woman and you don’t really know what you are doing, it can be one of the most uncomfortable feelings in the world. And when you feel that way, you are not going to make a good first impression on her, and let me tell you, first impressions count a lot.

So, you DO have to know how to approach women if you are ever going to be able to score a woman’s phone number, a date with her, or something more. But, that does not really do you a lot of good until you really have it down on what works when you approach a woman in a way that is going to leave her feeling impressed by you.

Here are 3 tips on how to approach women that will enable you to do just that:

1. Always smile but not in a way that looks intentional. What I mean by not looking intentional, is that you want to appear like you are just naturally smiling, not like you are doing it for a specific reason. This gives off the impression that you are just a happy guy, the kind of man that most women have no problem starting a conversation with.

2. You have to make your approach quickly without thinking about it too much. Some guys swear by a three second rule, and while I don’t agree that it always has to be that quick, you also don’t want to hem and haw for 20 minutes before you actually go and approach a woman. Especially if she has noticed that you are checking her out, because well, that’s the kind of thing that most women will find to be a little on the creepy side.

3. Your body language has to talk to her before you even make the approach. Body language accounts for anywhere from 70-90 percent of communication depending on which expert you talk to and so, you want to make sure that you do not neglect what your body language is saying to a woman. Keeping your body language OPEN will make a woman a lot more likely to WANT you to come and talk to her.

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Dating Tips For Men – How to Make Her Unable to Forget YOU!

Saturday, June 19th, 2010

Let’s face it. When it comes to dating, there is a lot of competition out there. Anytime that you walk in the door of a popular nightclub or bar, there are already going to be a lot of single men there that are trying hard to attract women. And when a really good looking women walks in the place, then all eyes are going to be on her. For some guys, this is very intimidating, and they end up just staring at a woman like that and talk themselves out of ever making an approach.

Then there are some guys that know that a woman like that is the perfect one to approach. I mean, I don’t know about you, but when I go out to meet women, I am not thinking, man I would love to attract an average looking chick. No, I am out there to meet and attract a beautiful woman, one that is sexy and alluring.

What can you do so that you can start attracting women like that?

You have to stop loading up on the cheesy games and methods that every other guy in the place is using to try and woo her, and hit her with some REAL game. You have to make her feel like she is unable to forget YOU!

Here’s how to do this:

Tip 1- Your Approach Has to Be Natural

Most guys actually shoot themselves in the foot by learning pickup lines and other tricks to try and attract women. Yes, if you are 20 and you are looking to hook up with 18 year olds, then you might get by on these tactics. However, if you are looking to hook up with a woman that is over the age of 21, and has a lot going for her, then you need to learn how to use natural game. The other stuff, she’s already heard it before and it does not work on her. You need to make an impression that she is not going to soon forget and using real game will do this.

Tip 2- Keep Your Money Where it Belongs!

Don’t bother trying to buy her $ 10 drinks all night long and think that this going to do the trick. You are just going to end up going home with about $ 50 less in your pocket, no woman, and no phone number. Keep the money in your pocket, and make her see you as a guy that she wants to be with, not a guy that is going to drop money on her for no reason. You don’t get to make a good impression on a woman if you assume that money has to do the talking for you.

Tip 3- Make Your Move or Go HOME!

The whole point of going out to meet and attract women is to hook up in some way. It might be for sex or it might be to start some kind of relationship, and hopefully, a mix of both. You got to make your move on her if you are going to get anywhere beyond just a good flirty conversation with her. Men that stay frigid and don’t make the move are the ones that end up wondering where they went wrong.

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Shy Guy Dating- How to Get Over Being Shy and Instead Be The Guy That Gets The Girl!

Tuesday, April 6th, 2010

There are many different levels of shyness around women that some guys have. Actually, to some extent ALL guys have a level of shyness around women. For some, the woman has to be an Angelina Jolie type to make them feel shy and for others, just about ANY woman will make them close off and feel uncomfortable.

There’s nothing wrong with being shy around women, unless it gets in the way of you feeling good about yourself and confident enough to be able to approach a woman when you feel attracted to her.

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If you feel like your social life needs a jolt and the shyness around women is TOO much, then I will show you a few tricks to get over this.

There’s one thing that you HAVE TO remember, though. Just reading words on a screen are NOT going to change your life. Taking action on them will.

I’ve encountered guys that say they already know all of the tricks to attract women, yet they end up staying home on the weekend when they would much rather be out with a woman, having fun, and hopefully ending the night with some mind numbing sex.

Here are some tips to get over your shyness with women:

1. You have to get comfortable speaking to women.

One of the problems that shy guys tend to have is that feel like talking to a woman is somehow on some higher level than talking to a guy or talking to a female relative. The mind trick to use is to get yourself to realize that she is NO different at all, and to realize that you probably won’t have a hard time finding at least some common ground to get started with. Once you get the conversation going, it’s not nearly as intimidating as it is to just get yourself to make the move and talk to her.

2. Start interacting with women that you are not attracted to, just to get used to flirting and talking with them.

If you lack much of any experience at all with women, then you have to go and get yourself some. Now, I’m not saying that you have to date or sleep with women that you don’t find attractive. But, you do have to get used to talking and flirting with them. You will most likely find that you don’t feel much of any pressure at all, especially because you already know that you are NOT trying to get with her. The goal is to just get used to being around women and knowing how to talk and flirt with them without feeling like you are under pressure or feeling any intimidation at all.

3. Take baby steps.

If you are really shy with women, then maybe going out tonight and approaching a woman that you would consider to be a ’10′ is just too much. So, take it in baby steps. Go out and approach an average looking woman. Talk to her, flirt with her, maybe get her to dance. Hell, even go for her phone number. Whatever way you want to see it, you cannot expect to just overnight become so comfortable that you can approach a model type and have no hesitations or reservations. It’s just not going to happen like that.

4. Get a group of female friends.

I find that most men that are really too shy with women have either none or only one or two real female friends. So, women almost seem foreign to them. You can easily find a couple of girls to just be friends with and get used to going out with them. Not only will this help you in getting over being shy with women, but it also helps when you go out looking to pick up a woman. If you go out and you have a group of women around you, other women will notice you and they will automatically think that you must be a cool guy that they should get to know. It’s simple social proof, but, it works.

5. Approach as many women as you can, as quickly as you can.

If you want to get over being shy with women really FAST, then you want to approach as many women as you can. We become desensitized to anything the more that we come into contact with it. The same reason why young kids that play violent video games become desensitized to violent acts, can actually help you with women. When you approach as many women as possible, by the tenth or twentieth time, it becomes nothing at all to you.

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