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It’s natural that you are going to feel a little bit of anxiety or worry or apprehension about approaching a woman from time to time. There is no sense in trying to eliminate that completely. However, if you find that you get approach anxiety to the point where it makes you freeze up completely or avoid any situations where you could end up missing out on getting a date because you don’t feel confident enough that you are going to make a good impression, that can be a problem.
As guys, we all know that the approach on a woman is one of the biggest hurdles that you can clear when it comes to getting your dating life handled. Actually, if you cannot make the approach, is more like being stuck in the starting gates, and instead of you getting in and enjoying the race, you are watching everyone else leave you in the dust. And there’s no way that you are going to get to the finish line if you can’t even get out the gates, right?
Whenever I get asked by a close friend or buddy of mine to give them some pointers or advice on how to approach women, one of the first questions I will ask is… “Are you comfortable with rejection?” Now, when I ask a question like that, I usually already know what the response is going to be. And I also usually get met with a puzzled look on their face. The reason why I ask this question is, because most men that do not have much success with approaching women are not comfortable with rejection. The converse is also true, though. Most men who are pretty successful at approaching women ARE comfortable with rejection.
If I had a dollar for every time that I heard someone say that all you need is confidence to be able to successfully approach a woman, I’d be a rich man. And if I actually believed that confidence was all that you needed – I would also be a lonely man as well. Why is that? Because confidence is NOT enough to make successful approaches. If that was all that you needed… there would be a lot more guys getting dates with the women that they wanted to get dates with.
Approaching a woman out in public is not something that most guys ever really do. Most of the time when a guy is out in public and he sees a woman he likes, he just kind of stands back and takes her in and wishes that he could actually get himself to walk up to her and say something, anything that will make her feel some kind of attraction towards him. What if you could actually be that guy that knows exactly how to approach a woman out in public and make her feel that kind of attraction towards you?
When you are in a crowded, lively place like a bar or a nightclub, one of the hardest things is to get noticed by women. The music is loud, the place is kind of dark, and there are lots of people there. How does a guy like yourself stand out and get noticed by women, and more importantly, come off like the kind of guy that she wants to get to know a little better?
One of the biggest sticking points for any guy is confidence when it comes to approach women, and even just in dating in general. If you are not really confident about your ability to approach and attract women, then you probably are not going to end up trying much, are you?
Most guys have a tendency to think about approaching women in bars and clubs, and while those are good places to meet women, there are plenty of others. So, you really don’t want to box yourself into thinking that those are the only possible places where you can successfully walk up to a woman and get a conversation started with her and potentially end up landing her phone number or a date with her.