It’s been a little warmer than usual this year on the East Coast and it’s already got some of that Spring feel to the air. I love that feeling and I love the fact that women start to dress oh so nice. Of course, all of that could change and the cold could come back after I write this, but it is still a good time to think about gearing up for the Spring time. Now, don’t think that this is going to be some hip fashion geek kind of post, because that is not really my style.
You’ve been told time and time again that sucking up to a woman is one of the cardinal sins of seduction. You know that when you suck up to a woman, you are subconsciously placing yourself beneath her, and as long as you place yourself beneath her… she will never be beneath you.
Ever notice how it is always the nice guys who end up at home alone on a Friday night surfing through the web, hoping to stumble on to a woman who just totally gets them? Well, it may not be that bad, but the nice guys surely are the ones who tend to get played the most, while it always seems like it is the bad boys who get laid the most. There are lots of reasons why nice guys don’t get laid, but I came up with four really common issues that nice guy have that make them resort to a box of tissues and a raunchy website instead of a nice, warm female body on the weekend.
As guys, we all know that the approach on a woman is one of the biggest hurdles that you can clear when it comes to getting your dating life handled. Actually, if you cannot make the approach, is more like being stuck in the starting gates, and instead of you getting in and enjoying the race, you are watching everyone else leave you in the dust. And there’s no way that you are going to get to the finish line if you can’t even get out the gates, right?
Conversation is one thing that everyone is supposed to be good at, right? I mean, we start talking when we are toddlers and we pretty much have it mastered by the time we are in our teens, so when you are an adult an find that it is HARD to talk to women, it can seem incredibly troubling to you. If you get tongue tied, if you start conversations that seem to go nowhere and you realize that it is causing you trouble with women, then please keep on reading.
Ask most guys this question, and they are going to look at you with confusion and bewilderment, or they are going to give you some kind of cheesy response that sounds like they learned most of their sexual education from adult films and locker room conversations with guys who have about the same amount of inexperience as they do.
There are lots of things that guys who are struggling with their dating life complain about, and one of those things is meeting women. It’s kind of hard to even imagine yourself doing well with women if it seems like you cannot even get to the point where you are actually meeting new women. You can learn all of the techniques and tricks for building attraction with a woman that you want, but if you don’t have any women to try them out on… how can you expect to have any kind of luck?
For some reason, most men grow up believing in a lot of “myths” about dating that really tends to hold them back from having the kind of success with women that they could and should have. There are many reasons for this, one of which is the grip that pop media culture seems to have on us.
You’ve got nothing to be ashamed of or feel self conscious about if you are looking to improve your results with women. If more guys actually took the time to learn what works and what doesn’t… there wouldn’t be so many hapless guys sitting at home alone. They would actually be out having a good time and doing what they dream about. Problem for most men is… they would rather sit at home by themselves than to admit that maybe, just maybe, they could use a few pointers to improve their game.
Whenever I get asked by a close friend or buddy of mine to give them some pointers or advice on how to approach women, one of the first questions I will ask is… “Are you comfortable with rejection?” Now, when I ask a question like that, I usually already know what the response is going to be. And I also usually get met with a puzzled look on their face. The reason why I ask this question is, because most men that do not have much success with approaching women are not comfortable with rejection. The converse is also true, though. Most men who are pretty successful at approaching women ARE comfortable with rejection.
Turning on a woman sexually is something that all straight men want to be able to do. And sometimes we trick ourselves into believing that we know how to do this without ever really thinking too deeply on it. The problem with that is, it’s not always true. See, most guys learn what they know about turning on a woman from the worst sources. They learn from buddies who know about as much as they do. They learn from movies that are set up to appeal to what guys want to see… not to what really works to turn on a woman.
One of the core concepts behind any effective dating advice is for a guy to start demonstrating higher value in order to attract women. Now, this concept does take on many forms, as some guys take it to mean that they need to always present themselves as being of higher value than the woman that they want to attract. However, there is another route that you can take with this, which is very simple and very effective. And that is to instead demonstrate higher value than most of the men that she comes across.
If you are a single guy and you want to improve your success at getting dates with women, then you probably have thought about how you look or more specifically, the way that you dress and wonder if that might increase your odds of getting dates. I don’t think that it should come as any surprise that people DO make judgments based on the way that other people look, it’s one of those ‘dirty little secrets’ that we all know is true.
Guys who are struggling to get dates with women usually end up in one of two categories. Either they don’t try hard enough, or they try too hard to get women to like them. Most guys seem to end up in of these two groups if they are not getting the attention that they want from women. Luckily, no matter which group you may be in, you can find your way out and start seeing some drastically different results right away.
All guys know what it is like to really want or desire a woman. Whether it is the bikini clad model in yet another swimsuit magazine, the cute waitress at the coffee shop, or the ‘friend’ you have been fantasizing about for years… all guys know what it is like to really want and desire to be with a certain woman. Yet, not every guy knows what it is like to have a woman seriously desire them. At least, not a woman that they would want to feel that way.