As guys, we all know that the approach on a woman is one of the biggest hurdles that you can clear when it comes to getting your dating life handled. Actually, if you cannot make the approach, is more like being stuck in the starting gates, and instead of you getting in and enjoying the race, you are watching everyone else leave you in the dust. And there’s no way that you are going to get to the finish line if you can’t even get out the gates, right?
So, if you are having a hard time with approaching women, then this is something that you need to take care of as soon as possible, or else you are going to get left behind and watch all the other guys end up with the women you want to be with. That’s even worse than not being able to finish a silly little race. Not being able to get dates with women because you cannot make the approach is one sure fire way to guarantee that you are going to be spending some lonely nights with your eyes glued to your computer screen.
There are so many little variables that you need to get just right when you approach a woman that it can be more than just a little intimidating. You want to make sure that she doesn’t think that you are some weirdo or some loser and you want to make sure that you are not making things worse for yourself by looking goofy as you walk on over to her.
HAS THIS EVER HAPPENED TO YOU?
You spot a woman and you can’t seem to shake your eyes off of her one bit. She’s breathtaking and in the lighting of the club, she looks absolutely seductive. You stand there, eyes gazing at her, taking in every bit of her from the top down to the bottom. And the funniest thing happens. She’s looking over at you and you can swear that she wants you to come over to her.
You glance back behind you, just to try and play it cool like you really were not just eye balling her from across the room. And your eyes, almost like they cannot help themselves go right back to checking her out. Inside your head, you are trying to ‘pep’ yourself up into getting the courage to leave your cozy little nest next to the bar and walk on over to her.
Your heart’s beating fast and you finally get yourself amped up enough to do it.
So, you start walking over to her, trying to navigate your way through the crowd as they dance to some obnoxious techno pop mix playing through the P.A. system and she’s looking right back at you. You are excited, already anticipating what might happen if you don’t blow it and you get a chance to hook up with her. She looks away as you get close to her and suddenly… the vibe changes.
All of the confidence that you felt, that high that you were riding is gone now. It’s been replaced with a familiar feeling of angst and anxiety as you realize that she’s not giving you the clear sign that you were hoping for. You get within a couple of feet of her, and you barely get out the words, “Hey.”
She looks back at you and gives you a look almost of contempt. Now you are frozen. The only thing that comes to mind is to ask her to dance to that obnoxious techno pop that you loathe so much and her response is, “No, I’m just waiting for a friend of mine. Oh… I think I see her.”
She takes off and gets herself lost in the crowd. Was she really going to meet up with a friend? Did you really misread her from across the room?
You want to believe that she really is off somewhere in the crowd with her friend and that she really did have to go meet her right then. But, you know the truth. Somewhere in those few moments that you made your approach… you lost her. When you were standing in your cozy little nest at the bar and she was standing across the room… she wanted you.
What happened in those precious few moments?
It’s amazing how quickly attraction can be lost and how hard it can see to gain it. And unfortunately, situations like this happen all of the time to average guys, nice guys, and even experienced guys. And it does not matter who you are… it can make you feel like you might as well never approach another woman again. At least, not until you get it figured out.
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