You’ve got nothing to be ashamed of or feel self conscious about if you are looking to improve your results with women. If more guys actually took the time to learn what works and what doesn’t… there wouldn’t be so many hapless guys sitting at home alone. They would actually be out having a good time and doing what they dream about. Problem for most men is… they would rather sit at home by themselves than to admit that maybe, just maybe, they could use a few pointers to improve their game.
Whenever I get asked by a close friend or buddy of mine to give them some pointers or advice on how to approach women, one of the first questions I will ask is… “Are you comfortable with rejection?” Now, when I ask a question like that, I usually already know what the response is going to be. And I also usually get met with a puzzled look on their face. The reason why I ask this question is, because most men that do not have much success with approaching women are not comfortable with rejection. The converse is also true, though. Most men who are pretty successful at approaching women ARE comfortable with rejection.
Turning on a woman sexually is something that all straight men want to be able to do. And sometimes we trick ourselves into believing that we know how to do this without ever really thinking too deeply on it. The problem with that is, it’s not always true. See, most guys learn what they know about turning on a woman from the worst sources. They learn from buddies who know about as much as they do. They learn from movies that are set up to appeal to what guys want to see… not to what really works to turn on a woman.
One of the core concepts behind any effective dating advice is for a guy to start demonstrating higher value in order to attract women. Now, this concept does take on many forms, as some guys take it to mean that they need to always present themselves as being of higher value than the woman that they want to attract. However, there is another route that you can take with this, which is very simple and very effective. And that is to instead demonstrate higher value than most of the men that she comes across.
If you are a single guy and you want to improve your success at getting dates with women, then you probably have thought about how you look or more specifically, the way that you dress and wonder if that might increase your odds of getting dates. I don’t think that it should come as any surprise that people DO make judgments based on the way that other people look, it’s one of those ‘dirty little secrets’ that we all know is true.