While we all want to have a really good relationship last, sometimes it just does not pan out that way. Things may start off really good in the beginning, only to come to that forlorn conclusion that the relationship just isn’t working out. Usually it does not happen in an instant. There are almost always some signs that the relationship is over, even before you actually break up.
When you can recognize that these signs are present in your relationship, you have two decisions that you can make. You can either just recognize that maybe it’s time to give up on the relationship, or, you can decide to try and repair it if that is possible. Most relationships, even when they seem like they are done, can be salvaged as long as you recognize it in time and get to work on fixing what is broken.
Here are 10 signs that your relationship is over so that you can either fix things or move on:
1) It stops becoming a forgone conclusion that the weekend means date night for the two of you.
Without going out together and doing things as a couple, you can pretty much guarantee that the relationship is either going to come to an end or become one of those mechanical situations where you just go through the motions. In the beginning, when a relationship is going along just fine, it usually is a foregone conclusion that the weekend means that the two of you are going to be spending time together. You look forward to it. When that goes, it usually is a clear sign that there is some trouble up ahead.
2) There is no conversation between the two of you when you are eating together.
Anyone can spot a couple who is still madly in love with each other or at least amicable enough that they enjoy each other’s company just by spying on them when they eat together. When everything is well and the fire and passion is still there, conversation usually follows. When all you see is two people sitting silently together as they eat, that usually is a sign that some of the sparks have dissipated from the relationship.
3) There is no more romancing of each other at all anymore.
Of course, some of the romancing dies a little the longer you have been with someone, but if it dies out completely, then that may be a sign that things might indeed be over. Even if it only happens every now and again, some of that wooing needs to be there on both sides of the coin if the relationship is truly going to last. If there is none, then you may want to take a deeper look at things.
4) You spend more and more time away from each other and it does not bother you one bit.
It’s only natural that you are not going to spend every moment of every waking day with each other, but when you spend more and more time away from each other and it does not bother you at all… that can be a bad sign in the relationship. When it gets to be too much, that is when couples begin to grow away from each other and it can end up meaning the end of a relationship, cheating, or arguing going on. Anyway you look at it, it’s definitely not the best of signs.
5) You start sensing that maybe your partner is seeing someone else.
Time and time again, that gut feeling tends to be pretty accurate when it comes to finding out that the other person may be cheating. So, if you are getting that gut feeling that your partner just might be cheating on you, then you may want to pay attention to what it is telling you. Cheating does not always mean that a relationship cannot be repaired or saved, but it definitely does mean that there is a possibility.
6) YOU start thinking about what it would be like to be with someone else.
Even if you are not the kind of person who would ever want to cheat on someone, it can happen that you end up thinking about what it might be like to be with someone else. Whether or not you end up crossing the line and actually do find someone else to be with, it is not a good sign at all. It usually means that something is lacking in the relationship and if you don’t figure it out… it may be the end after all.
7) You realize that as much as you like the person you are with… you don’t want to marry them.
It is entirely possible to be attracted to someone, to even love them and not want to marry them. And if the other person is at a point in their life where they want to get married, then staying with them can be a bad thing. You may end up hurting them more by not owning up to how you feel. Hey, it happens, and as long as you know that this is how you feel, then maybe it is time to see if there is someone else out there for you.
8) You clash too much with their family and their friends.
For some people, this is not a make or break situation, but for many others it can be, If the person you are in a relationship with spends a lot of time with their family and their friends and you clash with them, then that can be an indication of things to come. Too much clashing and you may need to come to the realization that things just are not going to work out for the long term.
9) There is too much physical distance between the two of you.
As much as we like to think that love can overcome any challenge, sometimes it just doesn’t. If there is a lot of distance between you and the one you are with, that can be quite a challenge to have to deal with. And if there are not many opportunities for the two of you to see each other, that can be a sign that the relationship just is not meant to be.
10) You get a feeling that you just cannot shake that the relationship is DEAD.
Sometimes, those feelings that we get about our relationships are intuitive and if you are getting one that you cannot shake off that the relationship is dead, then it just might be. There isn’t always an overwhelming reason or a clear sign that a relationship has bit the dust. Sometimes, it IS just a feeling that you get and you need to listen to that feeling.
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